LIFE & MOTHERHOOD COACH FOR MAMAS IN MIDLIFE

Tag: finding peace

  • Small Joys Matter

    Small Joys Matter More Than You Think: Why Happiness Isn’t What You’ve Been Told

    Sometimes I just go out for a walk. The sun comes out and it’s such a small thing. But it always lifts me and I feel happy.

    And I’ve been thinking about that—how we dismiss small joys as if they don’t count.

    So let’s let the small things matter.

    The Big Happiness Myth

    I used to think happiness had to be big. Achievements. Milestones. Life-changing aha moments.

    I’d look for it in the big things: promotions, holidays, major events. And when those things didn’t bring lasting happiness, I’d feel disappointed.

    Why wasn’t I happier? Why did the good things fade so quickly?

    But I was walking past small joys every single day and not even noticing them.

    The first coffee of the morning (I love a hot, milky coffee). The moment my son laughs at something silly. The feeling of clean sheets. The way light comes through the window at 4pm and catches on a hanging crystal.

    Tiny things.

    Except they aren’t tiny. They’re everything.

    What We’ve Been Taught About Joy

    We’ve been conditioned to think small joys don’t count. That happiness has to be earned through big accomplishments.

    But what if happiness isn’t one big thing, but the hundred small things we’re not paying attention to?

    For women over 50, this realization can be profound. After decades of chasing milestones—raising children, building careers, managing households—we often forget that joy doesn’t have to be earned. It’s already here. In the everyday. In the small.

    The Night Shift Biscuit

    Last week, I was at work during a night shift. It was going to be busy. And then a colleague brought in homemade biscuits. Just because.

    And when I was flagging, I took five minutes out, sat down and enjoyed one. Absolutely delicious, and I was so grateful to her. It mattered. And for those five minutes, I felt light. Connected. Happy. I thanked her. And I got on with my work.

    That five-minute break with a biscuit wasn’t “just a nice moment.” It was genuine happiness. The kind that keeps you going through a 12-hour night shift.

    Small Joys Aren’t Consolation Prizes

    Here’s what I’m learning: small joys aren’t consolation prizes for not having big happiness.

    They are happiness.

    The moment in the sun. The first coffee. The five minutes with a biscuit. The clean sheets. The way your body feels after a good stretch.

    These aren’t “nice moments while we wait for real happiness.”

    This is it. This is the happiness.

    What Are You Walking Past?

    Maybe you’ve been doing what I did—walking past small joys because you’re looking for something bigger.

    Waiting for the big thing that will finally make you happy. The achievement. The change. The moment when everything falls into place.

    And missing all the small things that are right here, with you, every day.

    The coffee that’s still hot. The text from a friend. The way your favourite song came on the radio at just the right moment. The clean kitchen after a long day. The feeling of finally sitting down.

    These matter. They count. They ARE the happiness you’re searching for.

    Your Practice This Week

    Notice 3 small joys every day.

    • The warmth of your tea
    • Something that made you smile
    • The way your body feels when you stretch
    • A text from someone you love

    Notice them. Name them. Let them matter.

    That’s happiness.

    Not someday. Not when everything is perfect. Not when you’ve achieved enough or fixed enough or become enough.

    Now. Today. In the small things you’re already living.

    I’d love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment below or hit reply—what’s one small joy you noticed this week?

    With love and best wishes always, Susy

    P.S. What’s one small joy you noticed this week? I love hearing them. 💛

    —

    by

    Susy Rosemary
    in , , , ,

    Small Joys Matter More Than You Think: Why Happiness Isn’t What You’ve Been Told Sometimes I just go out for a walk. The sun comes out and it’s such a small thing. But it always lifts me and I feel happy. And I’ve been thinking about that—how we dismiss small joys as if they don’t…

  • You Don’t Have to Be Loud to Be Big: Finding Your Quiet Power After 50

    How are you? I hope you’re doing well.

    I’ve been thinking about what makes people big.

    Some people seem so big – they’re loud, take up all the space. Sometimes I want to say, “Hold your horses, we don’t all need to hear all this.”

    But I’ve realised you don’t have to be loud to be big.

    The Power of Being Quietly Big

    I’m not a loud person. I’m actually quite small and quite quiet. But I KNOW what’s right and what’s wrong. I know what I’ll tolerate and what I won’t tolerate anymore.

    And that makes me quietly big.

    I’m not tolerating being dismissed. I’m not tolerating being put down. I’m not tolerating being treated differently just because I’m a mum, a woman, and now a woman over 50.

    I’m done with that.

    What Quiet Confidence Really Means

    You don’t have to be loud to be big. You can be quietly confident and calm in knowing what you want and what’s right according to YOUR values.

    That can create waves. Maybe even storms.

    But the calm water, the peace, comes again because you’re being true to yourself. Your peace comes because you’re being authentically you.

    I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s actually hard, especially when it doesn’t suit the people around you.

    But quiet confidence? That’s real power.

    And if you know someone who acts BIG, perhaps they aren’t so big after all…

    Your Turn: What Won’t You Tolerate Anymore?

    What’s one thing you don’t tolerate any more? I’d love to hear from you.

    Ready to go deeper?

    If you’re tired of waiting and are ready to rediscover the true you, I’d love to support you with 1:1 confidential coaching

    —

    by

    Susy Rosemary
    in ,

    How are you? I hope you’re doing well. I’ve been thinking about what makes people big. Some people seem so big – they’re loud, take up all the space. Sometimes I want to say, “Hold your horses, we don’t all need to hear all this.” But I’ve realised you don’t have to be loud to…